Sri Krishna promises in the Bhagvadgita that if you keep your attention on me, I will be attending to you always! - Sri Sri
Tuesday, October 9, 2012
Sunday, October 7, 2012
Just sensibility is not enough, you need sensitivity.
Just sensibility is not enough, you need sensitivity. Sensitivity is a matter of the heart. You can be very logical but you need to understand the view points of others as well. Many times, what people say, they behave in that exact manner. They are very correct, but they can hurt others easily.
Anyone who is very angry, they justify their anger with logic, but they don't know that their anger is
Anyone who is very angry, they justify their anger with logic, but they don't know that their anger is
hurting the other person. Not only the other person but them also. So the second important thing is being sensitive.
You know, somebody may be a fool but you calling them a fool, shouting at them, scolding them is not going to help. You need to be sensitive.
Do you know, the other day, in a program there was a lady who was scolding another person there who did not do their job very well. Then I called that lady and said, 'Listen, by your scolding, do you think that person has changed?'
And that lady said, 'No'.
I said, 'Then what is the use of yelling so much at that lady. You only destroyed your own image. The moment you scold somebody, even if you are giving them a productive or creative suggestion, they push it away. The purpose of your shouting is to bring sense into that person, and when by shouting it is not achieved, what is the use.'
She said, 'You are correct! I have been doing this all my life and created so many enemies around me.'
I said, 'That is why, you can't expect a donkey to run like a horse.'
You sit on a donkey and expect it is to run like a horse, that is not possible. So accept a donkey as a donkey and a horse as a horse. Where is the anger then?! This is sensitivity - being sensitive to the feelings of others and their needs. This is the quality of the heart.
There are people who are too sensitive. They lose their logic. They become an emotional soggy noodle. This is no good either. You need the perfect balance of sensitivity and sensibility. What do you say? Am I correct?!
You know, somebody may be a fool but you calling them a fool, shouting at them, scolding them is not going to help. You need to be sensitive.
Do you know, the other day, in a program there was a lady who was scolding another person there who did not do their job very well. Then I called that lady and said, 'Listen, by your scolding, do you think that person has changed?'
And that lady said, 'No'.
I said, 'Then what is the use of yelling so much at that lady. You only destroyed your own image. The moment you scold somebody, even if you are giving them a productive or creative suggestion, they push it away. The purpose of your shouting is to bring sense into that person, and when by shouting it is not achieved, what is the use.'
She said, 'You are correct! I have been doing this all my life and created so many enemies around me.'
I said, 'That is why, you can't expect a donkey to run like a horse.'
You sit on a donkey and expect it is to run like a horse, that is not possible. So accept a donkey as a donkey and a horse as a horse. Where is the anger then?! This is sensitivity - being sensitive to the feelings of others and their needs. This is the quality of the heart.
There are people who are too sensitive. They lose their logic. They become an emotional soggy noodle. This is no good either. You need the perfect balance of sensitivity and sensibility. What do you say? Am I correct?!
sometimes it does not happen
Q: After coming to The Art of living, I have developed the faith that whatever be my work it will get done. However, sometimes it does not happen. Why is it so?
Sri Sri: Yes, at times it does happen. In those times know that something even better is in store for you.
See, in life, happiness and sorrow, ups and downs, respect and disrespect, all of these things happen. But in the midst of all the
Sri Sri: Yes, at times it does happen. In those times know that something even better is in store for you.
See, in life, happiness and sorrow, ups and downs, respect and disrespect, all of these things happen. But in the midst of all the
se, maintaining you equanimity is what is important. It is the difficult times that tell you how equanimous you are.
When everything is going good for you, you may say, ‘I have a lot of faith and devotion’, but there is nothing great in saying that. But when things are not going well and you can still hold on to your faith and devotion, then that is true faith; strong faith.
Nature will put many events in your path to shake your faith, but even then if your faith still remains then you have become a really perfected person, and after that thing will be smooth.
In nature, it happens like that.
When everything is going good for you, you may say, ‘I have a lot of faith and devotion’, but there is nothing great in saying that. But when things are not going well and you can still hold on to your faith and devotion, then that is true faith; strong faith.
Nature will put many events in your path to shake your faith, but even then if your faith still remains then you have become a really perfected person, and after that thing will be smooth.
In nature, it happens like that.
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